August 17, 2018

happyHave you ever stopped and wondered why you were born?  I mean really, why are you here? Some people have a strong belief that they came with a purpose or specific goal to accomplish. Most of us are just feeling our way through it, which works great when we pay attention to our feelings. We learn from a very early age what we like and what we don’t like.

Our emotions are the variable indicators of our perception of what’s going on. As children we gravitated to games and people that we enjoyed as much as we had the control to do so. By the time we became adults, we had gathered a lot of beliefs about what we liked and didn’t liked.  Some beliefs were born from our personal experiences, but many are from society’s input.

I’ve recently challenged myself to be in a state of happiness – all the time.  Not just when I’m playing with the dog or having a glass of wine.  All the time.  Sound impossible? Maybe.  Maybe not. To me, it’s like a fitness goal. I could walk up the stairs or take the elevator. It’s a choice.  I can choose to be happy in a situation, or choose an old pattern or belief about it.  And being happy is a fitness goal for me.  Diseases are born from dis-ease in ourselves. A happy body is a resistant-free body.

I’m not suggesting that I dance around to Pharell’s “Happy” song all day long, although that’s pretty fun to do.  I just pay attention to my mood, my inner voices, my opinions as I’m talking, and my reactions to what’s happening.  All of them are indicators of where I’m at on the happy – not happy meter.  I make choices about what conversations I want to be in and what TV shows I want to watch.  Pretty hard to watch the news and be happy.

So join me on the Happiness Challenge. Make a conscious choice to be happy today.  Have fun with it.

perspectivesI just spent three days at CTI (The Coaches Training Institute) learning a process to help my coaching clients shift their perspective on a topic. As with all learning at CTI, I had three days to practice being the coach and being coached using the methodology. I witnessed in myself and in others how powerful our perspectives are when they hold us in a limiting position. I’m still reveling in the discovery of how easy it is to find another resonant perspective that will move someone forward.

Our perspectives are as unique as the number of people in the room. What I love about the co-active coaching model is that holds the premise that we’re all creative, resourceful and whole. My clients have the answers – I just have the processes, intuition, and great questions that help them find the answers, or in this case the new perspective that will resonate with them.

Powerful stuff. I’m happy to show you how it works. I could play this game all day.

Try a new approach to recruitingAs a recruiter and business coach, I frequently talk to candidates who want to take a new direction with their career. They’ve mastered their current focus and want to expand in another direction. Whether it’s just moving into a different vertical market or into a different role altogether, they find it difficult to be considered for the jobs that they haven’t already done.

In all my years of helping companies recruit talent, I can’t think of one occasion where a manager has said to me, “I don’t really care what they know, I just want them to be the perfect candidate for this job.” Boy, wouldn’t that be a fun job search?

What if instead of sending a resume, candidates wrote an essay about why they really wanted the job? We have all had that experience where we read a job description and thought, “Man, that’s the perfect job for me. I would rock at that job.” Wasn’t that the original intention of the cover letter? In today’s employment practice of job boards and searching for key words and metadata, the cover letter is lost.

Recruiters are tasks with finding candidates who are the best match for the job description handed to them. Staffing teams are often rated and scored on how closely their submittals match the job description. Candidates get frustrated when recruiters feel like the roadblock to breaking into a new field. Don’t hate the player – hate the game.

There is a propensity to hire talent that has several years doing the same job. Where is the expansion is that? Would a company be better served hiring someone who is bringing in a different perspective to the position?

How can we do this better? I’m curious about your ideas.

resolutionsJanuary is the month of new beginnings. Whether we’ve made New Years Resolutions or just entered the year with great intentions, we feel a sense of hopefulness that comes with a fresh start. Doesn’t it feel like the first day of school or the first day of baseball season? We start the year undefeated.

So how do we maintain our optimism and eagerness about our goals throughout the year? Here’s my strategy:

  • Break my larger goals (like completing my coaching certification) into smaller milestones that I can celebrate along the way.
  • Hang out with people who have similar goals.
  • Celebrate where I am each day. I don’t have to wait to achieve my goal to celebrate the progress I made today.
  • Be happy in the moment along the journey.
  • Get a coach to support me and help hold me accountable. (Yes, even coaches have coaches.)

So what’s your strategy for celebrating your goals on December 31st ?