March 18, 2018

happyHave you ever stopped and wondered why you were born?  I mean really, why are you here? Some people have a strong belief that they came with a purpose or specific goal to accomplish. Most of us are just feeling our way through it, which works great when we pay attention to our feelings. We learn from a very early age what we like and what we don’t like.

Our emotions are the variable indicators of our perception of what’s going on. As children we gravitated to games and people that we enjoyed as much as we had the control to do so. By the time we became adults, we had gathered a lot of beliefs about what we liked and didn’t liked.  Some beliefs were born from our personal experiences, but many are from society’s input.

I’ve recently challenged myself to be in a state of happiness – all the time.  Not just when I’m playing with the dog or having a glass of wine.  All the time.  Sound impossible? Maybe.  Maybe not. To me, it’s like a fitness goal. I could walk up the stairs or take the elevator. It’s a choice.  I can choose to be happy in a situation, or choose an old pattern or belief about it.  And being happy is a fitness goal for me.  Diseases are born from dis-ease in ourselves. A happy body is a resistant-free body.

I’m not suggesting that I dance around to Pharell’s “Happy” song all day long, although that’s pretty fun to do.  I just pay attention to my mood, my inner voices, my opinions as I’m talking, and my reactions to what’s happening.  All of them are indicators of where I’m at on the happy – not happy meter.  I make choices about what conversations I want to be in and what TV shows I want to watch.  Pretty hard to watch the news and be happy.

So join me on the Happiness Challenge. Make a conscious choice to be happy today.  Have fun with it.

perspectivesI just spent three days at CTI (The Coaches Training Institute) learning a process to help my coaching clients shift their perspective on a topic. As with all learning at CTI, I had three days to practice being the coach and being coached using the methodology. I witnessed in myself and in others how powerful our perspectives are when they hold us in a limiting position. I’m still reveling in the discovery of how easy it is to find another resonant perspective that will move someone forward.

Our perspectives are as unique as the number of people in the room. What I love about the co-active coaching model is that holds the premise that we’re all creative, resourceful and whole. My clients have the answers – I just have the processes, intuition, and great questions that help them find the answers, or in this case the new perspective that will resonate with them.

Powerful stuff. I’m happy to show you how it works. I could play this game all day.

Try a new approach to recruitingAs a recruiter and business coach, I frequently talk to candidates who want to take a new direction with their career. They’ve mastered their current focus and want to expand in another direction. Whether it’s just moving into a different vertical market or into a different role altogether, they find it difficult to be considered for the jobs that they haven’t already done.

In all my years of helping companies recruit talent, I can’t think of one occasion where a manager has said to me, “I don’t really care what they know, I just want them to be the perfect candidate for this job.” Boy, wouldn’t that be a fun job search?

What if instead of sending a resume, candidates wrote an essay about why they really wanted the job? We have all had that experience where we read a job description and thought, “Man, that’s the perfect job for me. I would rock at that job.” Wasn’t that the original intention of the cover letter? In today’s employment practice of job boards and searching for key words and metadata, the cover letter is lost.

Recruiters are tasks with finding candidates who are the best match for the job description handed to them. Staffing teams are often rated and scored on how closely their submittals match the job description. Candidates get frustrated when recruiters feel like the roadblock to breaking into a new field. Don’t hate the player – hate the game.

There is a propensity to hire talent that has several years doing the same job. Where is the expansion is that? Would a company be better served hiring someone who is bringing in a different perspective to the position?

How can we do this better? I’m curious about your ideas.

resolutionsJanuary is the month of new beginnings. Whether we’ve made New Years Resolutions or just entered the year with great intentions, we feel a sense of hopefulness that comes with a fresh start. Doesn’t it feel like the first day of school or the first day of baseball season? We start the year undefeated.

So how do we maintain our optimism and eagerness about our goals throughout the year? Here’s my strategy:

  • Break my larger goals (like completing my coaching certification) into smaller milestones that I can celebrate along the way.
  • Hang out with people who have similar goals.
  • Celebrate where I am each day. I don’t have to wait to achieve my goal to celebrate the progress I made today.
  • Be happy in the moment along the journey.
  • Get a coach to support me and help hold me accountable. (Yes, even coaches have coaches.)

So what’s your strategy for celebrating your goals on December 31st ?

Capitola Beach

Capitola Beach

What is greater than sharing a day with a close friend? Someone you’ve known through many seasons, both high and low. There is a peaceful knowing that comes from just spending time with them.

What is greater than spontaneously becoming part of a group of strangers who are hugging each other and laughing as more strangers want join the group to be hugged?

What is greater than a beautiful, sunny day by the ocean and being filled with the peaceful, healing power that it brings with each wave?

What is greater than this life?

Reposting a link to my post today on Content Rules web site.

Networking events maximize your business connections, whether you’re looking for new clients, strategic partners, or a new job. Regardless of your reason for being there, keep your conversations focused on the people you’re meeting and not on yourself.

People love to talk about themselves. By continuing to ask them questions, you’re not only learning about their background and company, you’re building a rapport. By continuing to ask questions, you’ll eventually find several common threads upon which you can build a relationship.

Watch how their eyes light up when you hit on a topic they’re passionate about. Its not always work related. It can be music, golf, books, or the latest episode of a TV program. Children and pets are one of the quickest ways to bond with a new acquaintance. Who doesn’t love to talk about their pets? And unless they have teenagers, I would guess they love to talk about their kids too.

If it’s an unstructured event where people mingle around the food tables and stand in line for the open bar, introduce yourself first and then start asking questions about them. Why are they at the event? What do they hope to learn or gain from it? What kind of work do they do? How did they get into that field? Be curious and make it all about them.

If it’s a structured event, like a breakfast or luncheon, be prepared to ask others at the table about themselves. If possible, try to make sure everyone is heard. If you’re in a leadership position, or job searching for one, what a great opportunity to show your leadership skills. Facilitate the conversation around the table, keeping the topic off of you.

Don’t go to a networking event planning to close business or find a job. It’s not going to happen. A networking event provides the seeds to plant a new relationship. Those seeds take time to nurture and grow before you’ll see a harvest.

Mira Makeover

Mira Makeover

We all need a makeover every now and again. Sometimes it’s just a new haircut or different clothes, but sometimes it’s a whole life makeover. I think my last life makeover was in 2005, shortly after my son graduated from high school and I ended a 20-year marriage. I worked with personal and business coach Kathleen Ronald during that year and rediscovered one of my gifts and passions: singing. Within four months of our first meeting, I was on stage doing a two-hour show. That performance led to others, which eventually led me to Deborah Thacker and Lucy Billings in 2007 when we formed Women With Strings Attached.

Seven years later (is it the itch?) there is a new Mira Makeover happening. I can even pinpoint the day it happened. I had called Kathleen, who I rarely talk to, to tell her about a mutual friend who is battling cancer. During our catch-up call, I heard myself saying, “I’m bored with myself. I need a Mira Makeover.” Well who better to work with on that than a personal coach?

As soon as we hung up the phone, I had a burst of creative energy. We hadn’t even booked the first session, and I was thinking of things I wanted to do. As if the Angels said, “now’s a good time, she’s listening”, my sister Kay suggested that I published the romance novel I wrote 10 years ago. The book made its debut on CreateSpace two months later. When you unblock your stuck energy, watch out.

The new website refresh is part of the Mira Makeover. The goal is to honor three of my gifts that I’m so passionate about: writing, singing, and connecting people. I’ve only just started the Mira Makeover of 2012. What do you think so far?

By the way, the makeover picture is what I would look like with Angelina Jolie’s hair. Pretty funny! Try it yourself at


Press Release March 27, 2012.

Mira Wooten Releases First Book, Welcome to Love.

You may know her as the VP of Business Development for Content Rules, a consulting company that specializes in content development. But Mira Wooten has taken on a new role: the fiction writer has released her first book, Welcome to Love on March 27th.

The book depicts a wonderful romance mystery as Caroline Bradford, a well-known photographer, moves to Austin and finds herself caught up in an unexpected romance with Luke Brady. As if settling into a new town, a new career, and a new relationship isn’t enough, Caroline becomes a witness to a political murder that sets her up to be the next victim.

This story literally wrote itself, Wooten says, in less than six weeks. As a long-time reader of romance mysteries, she fell in love with the characters as they came to life in this story. “Sometimes I felt like an outsider even as I was writing the dialog between these two characters in the story.”

Written in 1992, the book has finally been dusted off, polished up, and self-published on